Self Reflection Part 2


A while back my mother emailed me nine questions titled “Self Reflection”

She read a post written by Chriselle Lim on The Chriselle Factor which inspired my momma to answer those questions herself.

She then forwarded the questions to me.


As the title implies, the questions are pretty deep.

Like soul-reaching deep.

So I thought that it’d be better to split them into three in order to not send your brain into overload with my answers. Plus considering that these questions spark equally deep answers, one post encompassing such lengthy paragraphs might be a bit much.

Shades from Poshmark.

How have I developed or changed as a person?

I think, or at least I’d like to think, that I’ve become kinder and more sociable.

A few years prior to getting my green card, I became a very angsty and hostile person who was uncomfortable being around new people. Which in turn made me seem like a bitch. And not the good kind.

Maybe it was just being in “that” age, or maybe it was the transition into a whole new continent, or going back to public school, or perhaps it was the beginnings of what I now know to be my anxiety and depression.

Either way I began to realize that I couldn’t be that way forever.

I had to learn how to let people in.

I had to learn how to be open to leaving the house and doing something other then napping or watching tv shows.

I’m still sassy and scary.

That will probably never change. But at least I can learn how to control myself and determine what is the right amount and type of attitude to exude.

Top is Kate Spade.
Pants from Creations for a Cause.
Earrings from Hot Topic. Lips is By Terry called Chocolate Tea.
Shoes from an indie boutique in Malaysia.

What have I done differently this year (2017)? What new people have I met or new experiences have I had?

As I mentioned before, I’ve become more outgoing.

By putting myself out there I’ve allowed myself to make new friends at my university, and thus, have new experiences. By “new” I don’t mean like the stereotypical college activities people think of: drinking, partying, skipping class, drugs, sex, etc.

By “new” I mean going out to the bleachers and dancing to music, making pancakes or cookies in the common kitchen, studying on the grass on a nice breezy day, going to a nail salon for a manicure, hanging out at Chinatown while drinking bubble tea, and staying out at night jamming out to throwback songs.

For some these things may not seem too extravagant.

But the people you’re with are as equally important as the activity itself.


 How much fun have I had this year (2017)? Was I fulfilled?

2017 was a crazy year filled with it’s ups and downs.

But when I think back to that year, I think of it fondly.

I was fulfilled in the sense that I had ended a chapter in my life that I’m proud to have accomplished (graduating high school) because of how long it seemed to have taken. Not to mention the constant motivation to do well in order to get into college.

It’s hard to accurately put into words the relief and joy I felt when I received my first university acceptance letter. Although in the end I chose to not attend that school, the thought that there was indeed a university that wanted me was one of the most fulfilling emotions I have had in my life thus far.


Here are the questions for you to answer as well:

1. What were my best achievements this year?

2. How did these achievements make me feel?

3. What were my 3 biggest challenges or obstacles I faced this year? How did I overcome them? Who did I become as a result?

4. How have I developed or changed as a person?

5. What have I done differently this year? What new people have I met or new experiences have I had?

6. How much fun have I had this year? Was I fulfilled?

7. Who has helped me, been influential, or impacted my life this year?

8. What am I really proud of?

9. Is everything I have done this year in alignment with my big dream or goal?

Hello 2018!

Author: theworldaccordingtoeve

Fashion enthusiast.

6 thoughts on “Self Reflection Part 2”

  1. It is so important to ask ourselves these kind of questions – so great that your mother sent them to you! I’m so glad you are at a good place in your life right now. Thank you for sharing these important questions with us at the Hearth and Soul Link Party.

  2. Molehills can appear as insurmountable as mountains at times, and, unfortunately, no amount of experience nor increase in age will make them any less challenging. There is an upside to this story, I promise. Time does bring with it clarity of mind to approach the situation in a calmer fashion, and the skill to categorise every incident based on scale of drama/tragedy/priority. Ish. For the most part. You, my baby, have acquired this “skill” quite early on. And as Shelbee pronounced, you are wise beyond your years.

    p/s I would even go so far as to say that the quality of the company easily outweighs the activity, which you know 🙂 xo

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